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Autism news: Why Failure is Required
June 11, 2019

Many kids with autism are so used to failure that they have a low view of themselves. It’s almost certain that they will be comparing themselves with others who can do more and do better than they can do.

That’s why I try to help my children understand that before success at anything can happen, failure must come first.

The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t isn’t a lack of failure. It’s the determination to keep trying in the face of failure that makes the difference.

Consider Jack Canfield, whose Chicken Soup For the Soul books are among the top 20 best selling series of all time.

Success didn’t happen all at once for Mr. Canfield. What many people don’t know is that he was first rejected by publishers not once, but 144 times!

I’m not saying that we should expect our children to be someone they’re not. For each child, success could mean making that first sound, saying that first word or learning to tie their shoes.

But for each milestone our kids reach, they will have to experience failure first.

Reminding our children of this fact whenever they fail at something can be a great encouragement to them. It can motivate them to keep trying regardless of how many times they miss the mark.

As Brene Brown has said, “There is no innovation and creativity without failure. Period."

Warm Regards,

Kay Donato

Discover Autism Help, LLC

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